Lets play a little game, little experiment
Name of the game: justify God’s idea behind your own separation from your TF
Object of the game: sit down, and make a list of all positive things that may have been God’s intention behind your TF separation. Every-single-little- thing you might think of.
Well, it’s been said that righteous man always justifies the Creator, that no matter what are events in his life, righteous man feels the thought behind the giving of that particular event and this thought is always good, never bad.
So the hypothesis is that God, the Creator, Universe or whatever you would like to call it, always gives us events that are good for us, but we fail to see that since we are operating from our own perspective, that is flawed.
Well, if anything I know that oh to well,
since being separated from my TF is the hardest thing, most painful event I’ve been given, so far, in life.
It is beyond hard for me to see that as something positive for me.
But I tried to see it as a positive thing. I tried.
I tried to incorporate this hypothesis that God is giving us just good things and we fail to see things as good since our own perspective is flawed.
Also I tried to see or should I say, sense the thought behind God’s act of separating my TF and me, and to sense it just as a good thing for me.
It’s been said that you should always think of every possible good scenario for a event you see as bad – try to think of it as a screenplay, what would be every good motifs behind this particular painful even in your life. Think of any reasons, no matter how ridiculous or minuscule are and write it down.
Make your own private list of all things that were possible good motifs behind God’s action of giving you this specific “gift” -separation from your TF.
No matter how small, insignificant or stupid some of the reasons may sound to you, just write it down, honestly.
I made my own list with every possible positive thing God wanted me to experience by separating me from my TF.
Now we are at the point that we should incorporated modern TF gurus and teachers idea that one of the most important thing we got by experiencing separation from our TF is to find our self’s, to find our own way, inner power and so on – this may be true but dont stop at this. List every possible reason you can thing of, make it a game.. 🙂
(Also, no matter how sophisticated this may sound, dont just stop at those few general terms “finding own path, finding yourself” and all that new age -jazz… broad it up – God is (often) hidden and couple of new age terms that dont mean anything to you personally wont make you understand the essence)
That is what I did with my list, I keep it open to write more reasons, anything I can think of ….
Will this get instant results? Obviously it wont, but it might help at least for a while….
I feel like whenever we are playing with the idea that there is something good behind this horrible event of TF separation, we are in the good path.
And I also know -oh too well- how hard and painful is to see it that way.
Justifying God’s acts and seeing them as exclusively good is one of the hardest thing a human mind can do, actually.
As you may or may not know it’s been a main focus of a theodicy a huge philosophical and religious branch aimed to attempt to explain the question of why a good God permits the manifestation of evil in the world.
I used a simplified version, of a hypothesis from, again, opposite side of the spectrum -from simplified kabbalistic explanation, since I feel its is far more refined that all those apologetics explanation one can find in other sources.
Also, note that is far easier to think of bunch of the reasons why is certain bad event good for other people but not for you in particular. For example, many of us, separated TF, can easily think of numerous reasons why is TF separation good for a current partners of our TFs. But dont go there and think of it at all.
The trickiest part is to list all good reasons we can think of on how TF separation is good for us.